TIPS & ADVICE for the husband.

The next time you argue with your wife, drop the shaming, blaming, the guilt trips, the needing to be right, and really listen without interrupting. Close your mouth and open your ears.
 It's not your partner's job to read your mind, guess what you're thinking, or put words into your mouth. These are huge road blocks to open, honest communication and will guarantee resentment, anger, and frustration in the relationship.

 Fair is fair. You may have forgotten about it, but now's the time to bring it back into your relationship. Are you both being fair when it comes to divvying up chores, communicating your needs, telling her exactly what you want, dealing with finances, parenting, and supporting each other? If not, how can you improve? Think of it like this; She washes your filthy underwear, you take out the trash. Give and take. Do your share in the relationship. If your partner is working and your not then you should be doing the majority of the chores anyhow. That's just common sense.

Nothing is more important in a marriage than the relationship between husband and wife. When other things become more important, such as careers, children, and personal stuff like fantasy football, or hanging out with the guys, trouble comes creeping in. Make the relationship your top priority. When you do, the marriage flourishes. I struggled with this for a long time and I'm now working on this problem and the benefits are great! I still have my moments but all in all I think it's getting better.

APPRECIATE YOUR WIFE!!! Show it, tell them how much you appreciate them and everything they do. Do things for her to let her know you still care about her. Rub her feet, shoulders, back. Whatever...just do something nice for her.

One of the most important factors in a marriage is respect. Respect each other, avoid verbal abuse, and keep insults to yourself. Bad words are just like squeezing toothpaste out of its tube—once it is out you can never get it back in again. So before you open your mouth to say something stupid (like I do) think about it first. The consequences could be disastrous. Think it...don't say it.

You're entitled to the occasional bad mood. You're NOT entitled to make your partner the whipping boy. I have a hard time with this one since my wife is the one who I talk to. It seems natural that she's going to get the shit end of my problems simply because she's there. But why should she? She's there to help me, not be verbally abused. So who gets the bad? YOU DO. It's your bad mood not anyone else's. Deal with it and try not to take it out on anybody else.

Research consistently shows that touching more creates a stronger bond by releasing oxytocin. Hold hands, rub shoulders, hug, kiss, or just the occasional butt pats. When you give a quick hug or kiss, try to lengthen it to at least 5-10 seconds (if it's not too awkward). Just to show you care.