As I sit here and write this post I have this incredible feeling of guilt.
I feel guilty that my wife has to go off to work and I get to sit here and play on the computer all day.
I am actively searching for work and I know that something will come along eventually, yet I feel bad every morning when I see my wife leave to go to work and I'm still sitting here. I know it's somewhat ridiculous to feel this way, but it's how I feel and I can't help that.
Don't get me wrong, I do like hanging around the house and doing things for my wife that she doesn't have the time do, yet I still have this sense of laziness. I can't understand how anyone would want to live this way. I hear about husbands who stay at home and don't do anything all day but play video games and don't clean the house or anything, how can anyone be so selfish?
I don't get it and I don't like not contributing to the household responsibilities.
Oct 31, 2012
Oct 30, 2012
words of wisdom
'If you are going to argue, argue naked.'
"Don't go to bed angry at each other."
"Marriage is forever. You have to stick it out no matter how miserable you are."
" If you are taking your spouse for granted because you believe that your partner will always be there for you, you are making a huge mistake."
“Remember that a successful marriage depends on two things: (1) finding the right person and (2) being the right person.”
Whenever you're wrong admit it;
Whenever you're right shut up.
Marriage is the alliance of two people, one of whom never remembers birthdays and the other who never forgets.
Marriage is not just spiritual communion; it is also remembering to take out the trash.
If the wife ain't happy, ain't nobody happy.
"For women: Do not expect your husband to change after marriage.
For men: Do not expect your wife to change. ever."
Oct 26, 2012
Integrity
A woman wants a man who has integrity. Do what you say. Be upfront, honest and open. Be real.
I have struggled with this issue most of my adult life. I would say I'll do this or that and then never do it. Good intentions will get you exactly NOWHERE in life. You have to mean what you say and do what you say your gonna do. Simple as that. If I ask my wife if there's anything I can do around the house and she gives me a list of things to do, I'm damn sure gonna do it. Maybe not the second she wants it done, but it will get done. I'm not telling you to let her walk all over you and be her slave (although some women would just LOVE that) no, I'm talking about integrity. Follow through.
Be honest with your wife. If something is bothering you, let her know. Don't hold it in, it's not healthy. If she's doing something that you don't particularly like, let her know. Maybe you don't like her meatloaf or lasagna, tell her. Or maybe she shaves her legs and doesn't clean up after herself (some women are nasty) let her know it bothers you and try to be respectful about it. These are just examples, don't get carried away here.
You can make things much easier on yourself by being honest. Although some things are better left unsaid. They don't have to know EVERYTHING your thinking. There may be times when you would like to put a plastic bag around her...never mind, too far.
But you get the point.
But if it pertains to your marriage or her, let her know about it. This is how issues get resolved.
COMMUNICATION!! It goes a long way guys.
Be real. When you first met her you were probably all sweet and lovey, buying her flowers all the time and saying cute little things to her and after awhile those flowers stopped showing up and the cute little sayings have disappeared. Be real from the beginning. Be honest with your feelings and thoughts. This may not be easy for most men, however a lot women do want to know what's going on in that thick head of ours. So just be yourself from the get go. It's not too late to return to that sweet caring guy she met years ago.
Don't turn into the boring guy you see on t.v. shows. Be the man you wan to be all of the time. Be the loving, caring husband that has integrity and honesty. Be the man who's not afraid to share his feelings and thoughts with his wife or girlfriend. Women love it and sometimes it turns them on. Believe or not they do like it.
Stay tuned for more...
I have struggled with this issue most of my adult life. I would say I'll do this or that and then never do it. Good intentions will get you exactly NOWHERE in life. You have to mean what you say and do what you say your gonna do. Simple as that. If I ask my wife if there's anything I can do around the house and she gives me a list of things to do, I'm damn sure gonna do it. Maybe not the second she wants it done, but it will get done. I'm not telling you to let her walk all over you and be her slave (although some women would just LOVE that) no, I'm talking about integrity. Follow through.
Be honest with your wife. If something is bothering you, let her know. Don't hold it in, it's not healthy. If she's doing something that you don't particularly like, let her know. Maybe you don't like her meatloaf or lasagna, tell her. Or maybe she shaves her legs and doesn't clean up after herself (some women are nasty) let her know it bothers you and try to be respectful about it. These are just examples, don't get carried away here.
You can make things much easier on yourself by being honest. Although some things are better left unsaid. They don't have to know EVERYTHING your thinking. There may be times when you would like to put a plastic bag around her...never mind, too far.
But you get the point.
But if it pertains to your marriage or her, let her know about it. This is how issues get resolved.
COMMUNICATION!! It goes a long way guys.
Be real. When you first met her you were probably all sweet and lovey, buying her flowers all the time and saying cute little things to her and after awhile those flowers stopped showing up and the cute little sayings have disappeared. Be real from the beginning. Be honest with your feelings and thoughts. This may not be easy for most men, however a lot women do want to know what's going on in that thick head of ours. So just be yourself from the get go. It's not too late to return to that sweet caring guy she met years ago.
Don't turn into the boring guy you see on t.v. shows. Be the man you wan to be all of the time. Be the loving, caring husband that has integrity and honesty. Be the man who's not afraid to share his feelings and thoughts with his wife or girlfriend. Women love it and sometimes it turns them on. Believe or not they do like it.
Stay tuned for more...
It's the little things...
The times are changing guys!!! Things aren't what they used to be. Women are out there busting their butts to put food on the table and put games in your PS3 or XBOX!!
How many of you are sitting at home right now playing PS3, eating doughnuts, posting on Facebook or Twitter and doing nothing constructive? These are the men I'm trying to reach in this blog. I offer you tips and advice on how to make your lives (and wives) a little happier. We need to support and RESPECT our wives for who they are and what they are doing. So please, listen up!!
It's not easy being married. That in itself is an understatement. However, it doesn't have to be all that difficult. Mainly it's the little things us husbands can do for our wives that make the biggest difference.
What am I talking about? Well for instance, say your wife works 2 jobs and and your sitting at home playing PS3 all day, take an hour to clean the house up, do the dishes, vacuum, whatever, it's a little thing you can do to make her life a little easier. If you truly love and respect her (which is another topic all together) you'll be happy to do these little things. I know men are typically lazy and would rather be working in the garage or working on the car, but don't forget the laundry and the dusting. Doesn't really sound like manly work I know, but, why not do it and enjoy the praise you'll get when the wife comes home? Seriously, what else are you doing with your time??!!
Little things go a long way for a woman. When my wife says "ice cream sounds really good right now." I get up and get her a bowl of ice cream. She doesn't have to ask for it, it just appears. I heard "ice cream sounds really good right now", but what she was saying was "I worked my ass off today and I would love a bowl of ice cream, would you please get me some? Thank you I'll love you forever". It's the little things guys. Foot rubs also go a very long way. It's something my wife loves and greatly appreciates when I do it. Again she doesn't (and shouldn't) have to ask for. I'm not doing anything better anyway. It shows that I care about her needs and it says I respect you and you'd do it for me. And hey you never know, that foot rub might lead to more erotic things!! Why wouldn't you want to do that??!!
Respect and love your wives by showing them you give a crap.
These are just a few tips I have to offer, more to come.
How many of you are sitting at home right now playing PS3, eating doughnuts, posting on Facebook or Twitter and doing nothing constructive? These are the men I'm trying to reach in this blog. I offer you tips and advice on how to make your lives (and wives) a little happier. We need to support and RESPECT our wives for who they are and what they are doing. So please, listen up!!
It's not easy being married. That in itself is an understatement. However, it doesn't have to be all that difficult. Mainly it's the little things us husbands can do for our wives that make the biggest difference.
What am I talking about? Well for instance, say your wife works 2 jobs and and your sitting at home playing PS3 all day, take an hour to clean the house up, do the dishes, vacuum, whatever, it's a little thing you can do to make her life a little easier. If you truly love and respect her (which is another topic all together) you'll be happy to do these little things. I know men are typically lazy and would rather be working in the garage or working on the car, but don't forget the laundry and the dusting. Doesn't really sound like manly work I know, but, why not do it and enjoy the praise you'll get when the wife comes home? Seriously, what else are you doing with your time??!!
Little things go a long way for a woman. When my wife says "ice cream sounds really good right now." I get up and get her a bowl of ice cream. She doesn't have to ask for it, it just appears. I heard "ice cream sounds really good right now", but what she was saying was "I worked my ass off today and I would love a bowl of ice cream, would you please get me some? Thank you I'll love you forever". It's the little things guys. Foot rubs also go a very long way. It's something my wife loves and greatly appreciates when I do it. Again she doesn't (and shouldn't) have to ask for. I'm not doing anything better anyway. It shows that I care about her needs and it says I respect you and you'd do it for me. And hey you never know, that foot rub might lead to more erotic things!! Why wouldn't you want to do that??!!
Respect and love your wives by showing them you give a crap.
These are just a few tips I have to offer, more to come.
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